My Not New Year’s Resolutions

I’m not much for new year resolutions. I am a person who fully believes that if you want to change something or do something then don’t wait for tomorrow, do it today.

Instead of making resolutions for the new year, I am going to resolve to continue to work on the things that I know need work in my life, in my relationships, with my children, and so on and so forth. People need change. In order to be a better you, you need to change. When you see something broken, you fix it. When you see something dirty, you clean it. The same applies to life. Why put off for tomorrow what you can do today.

My relationship with my husband is not where it should be. I resolve to make this better. My best friend said something that rang so true in my ears yesterday during a very special visit with her. In regards to her and her husband she said “I cannot change him, but I can sure change me.” How true! So often in our relationships with our husbands we try to “change” them. We nag them to death, we yell until we are blue in the face, we argue, we fight and for what? The end result is usually them continuing to not listen, not doing what you need them to do, and them not caring at all about what is spewing out of our mouths. Obviously, ladies, we are going about this the wrong way. So, instead, I will change me. I will focus on me. I will do what is expected of me. I will not worry about him not taking out the trash after I’ve asked him to. If it doesn’t get done, then I will do it. I will not focus on him still putting his work uniform on our bedroom floor right next to the dirty clothes hamper, I will pick it up for him. I will do these things because I love him. Not because I think I am his house slave, not because I have given up, and not because I have to, but because I love him. And I will do so all without yelling, nagging, and pushing for him to do it. I am not AT ALL saying that this will be easy, in fact, this will be one of the hardest things I have ever done. I am a yeller, a nagger, and a pusher. These are things that MUST change. In order for my relationship with my husband to get better, in order for him to know that I love him, in order for me to lead by example, these things have to change. SO…I resolve to continue to work on my relationship with my husband.

As a homeschooling parent I spend a lot of time with my children. However, it is not all sunshine and daisies. More often then not here recently, they are not following directions, running around like hooligans, and fighting with each other. That results in my temper flaring, me throwing my hands up, and the yelling battle ensues. No more. I am putting my parenting practices back in place. This past holiday season has truly shown me that you should never allow holidays and family visits to get in the way of your family routine and parenting. It makes for very grumpy children who act out which ultimately turns into very grumpy parents who act out. Either way it goes, it’s time to get back to our routine, back to loving and caring about each other, time to throw out all the techniques that are not working, and time to kick laziness to the curb. I want things back to normal! SO…I resolve to continue to work on my parenting skills and my relationships with my children.

I could write a book about all the things that I am going to continue to work on and change. The above are the two that are most important to me. I resolve to start every day with a new hope, leave bad memories behind, and have faith for a better tomorrow.

This pretty much sums up my Not New Year’s Resolutions:383713_535677853118685_1299395286_n

 

 

Sowing My Love

“I could have been anything in the world, but I chose to be a mom.” -Amanda Harper

My job is to keep our house in order and to home educate our children. I cook meals, I do the laundry, I make the beds, I do lessons with the children, and I clean the bathrooms, just to name a few. Sometimes, I do have those days where I really don’t feel the tug to do what I need to or maybe I’m going through my duties like a robot set on autopilot. I had this issue just a few days ago. So, I looked at it another way. I was reading my devotional and it was talking about sowing our love into the world. That got me thinking. With every meal that I cook, with every piece of clothing I put away, and with every stroke of my broom I am inscribing my heart into theirs. When my children take a bath, they know that mommy keeps the tub clean just for them. When my husband comes home and sees that I’ve worked hard in my duties throughout the house, he knows that I enjoy watching the satisfaction play across his face. Something I learned a while ago from a friend is when you are doing the dreaded task of laundry, pray for the person who belongs to the item you are folding. It gives you many opportunities to pray for everyone in the household several times that day. Ever since starting this it has made doing laundry so much easier. When I am working on my husbands PT’s or his ACU uniform he is deeply in my thoughts and I pray for everything I can think of for him. When I am folding each of my children’s set of clothing I am praying for many things such as their future spouse, their faith to be strong, that they will be kept safe from the evil one, and that they will grow in love toward one another. I take my job very seriously just like any person would their own career. Most days I do not look at my tasks ahead with utter despair, I look at them as a chance to inscribe my love for my family onto everything that I do for them. Not only do I serve my family, but I serve God in doing so.

1 Corinthians 10:31 “Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”