My Not New Year’s Resolutions

I’m not much for new year resolutions. I am a person who fully believes that if you want to change something or do something then don’t wait for tomorrow, do it today.

Instead of making resolutions for the new year, I am going to resolve to continue to work on the things that I know need work in my life, in my relationships, with my children, and so on and so forth. People need change. In order to be a better you, you need to change. When you see something broken, you fix it. When you see something dirty, you clean it. The same applies to life. Why put off for tomorrow what you can do today.

My relationship with my husband is not where it should be. I resolve to make this better. My best friend said something that rang so true in my ears yesterday during a very special visit with her. In regards to her and her husband she said “I cannot change him, but I can sure change me.” How true! So often in our relationships with our husbands we try to “change” them. We nag them to death, we yell until we are blue in the face, we argue, we fight and for what? The end result is usually them continuing to not listen, not doing what you need them to do, and them not caring at all about what is spewing out of our mouths. Obviously, ladies, we are going about this the wrong way. So, instead, I will change me. I will focus on me. I will do what is expected of me. I will not worry about him not taking out the trash after I’ve asked him to. If it doesn’t get done, then I will do it. I will not focus on him still putting his work uniform on our bedroom floor right next to the dirty clothes hamper, I will pick it up for him. I will do these things because I love him. Not because I think I am his house slave, not because I have given up, and not because I have to, but because I love him. And I will do so all without yelling, nagging, and pushing for him to do it. I am not AT ALL saying that this will be easy, in fact, this will be one of the hardest things I have ever done. I am a yeller, a nagger, and a pusher. These are things that MUST change. In order for my relationship with my husband to get better, in order for him to know that I love him, in order for me to lead by example, these things have to change. SO…I resolve to continue to work on my relationship with my husband.

As a homeschooling parent I spend a lot of time with my children. However, it is not all sunshine and daisies. More often then not here recently, they are not following directions, running around like hooligans, and fighting with each other. That results in my temper flaring, me throwing my hands up, and the yelling battle ensues. No more. I am putting my parenting practices back in place. This past holiday season has truly shown me that you should never allow holidays and family visits to get in the way of your family routine and parenting. It makes for very grumpy children who act out which ultimately turns into very grumpy parents who act out. Either way it goes, it’s time to get back to our routine, back to loving and caring about each other, time to throw out all the techniques that are not working, and time to kick laziness to the curb. I want things back to normal! SO…I resolve to continue to work on my parenting skills and my relationships with my children.

I could write a book about all the things that I am going to continue to work on and change. The above are the two that are most important to me. I resolve to start every day with a new hope, leave bad memories behind, and have faith for a better tomorrow.

This pretty much sums up my Not New Year’s Resolutions:383713_535677853118685_1299395286_n

 

 

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3 thoughts on “My Not New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Thanks Amandagrace. I needed to read this. Something you said really sticks out to me. What you said about doing stuff because you love your husband and not getting upset because you eel like his slave… It kind of turned on a lightbulb over my head that I should stop focusing on being mad that I do everything, and try to focus more on the fact that I do it because I love my family.

    1. As soon as I started reading the comment I knew it was you! That says something about our friendship lol Anyway, I’m glad I could help. It is still not something I have mastered. While cleaning the house today, I asked the husband to do a few tasks, he didn’t do them, so I did. Granted, in my head I was praying to God to help me keep my mouth shut and to help me be happy. Success! I did accomplish it! I got the house cleaned without nagging and fussing at him for not doing his part, I just did it. It will take practice for sure, but I hope that it will become easier the more that I work at it. =)

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